Brett and I recently went to a Parenting Class. Our family has all hit a hard time all at once. Duncan is 12......Tori is 10......Samantha is almost 8......and Jason is Jason.
Alright, that might not break it down exactly, but we decided we needed a little bit of help in working with our kids so we signed up.
The big thing she talked about was building FAMILY VALUES. Such as Respect. That was the first thing that we decided we needed to work on. We have to go slowly though, so the first thing we are going to work on is respect of property. I think this is the easiest thing for the kids to understand, Chores. So we are going to start here.
The difference is, we are going to change a lot of wording and meanings. If we don't get our chores done, instead of punishment we are going to get a lot of practice doing the things we struggle with. Practice sounds a lot better than punishment. Also the difference is that to start out Brett and I are going to help the kids learn what is acceptable and what is not. So the first step is having Brett and I help the kids so they learn that we are willing to help them as well. We'll see how it goes. The kids seemed really accepting of it.
We are also going to start working on respecting each other next. Hopefully this will help get a little more harmony in our home.